Tuesday, February 8, 2011

about indecision and some other small things...

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               One night, at our home:
Mr. S: "So, hon, what are you reading there?
Me(very decisive): "Well, I was just reading something about indecision and indecisive people. I'm gonna write a post about it!"
Mr. S: "In that case, just write something about yourself, you don't have to spend time gathering all kind of information."
              I thought: "What the heck?!"
..and then, I spent 3 weeks wondering what should I write on this topic.(ha ha) I have to admit: I'm not a person who can make decisions. I'm not proud of it, and one of my goals this year is to change that. This last year of my life thought me that indecisiveness is about doubt, fear, confusion, and lack of self-confidence. You can live your whole life saying "Maybe" and "I don't know" or you can just face the reality and become a stronger, more confident person who can actually do something, and change something. Because you can change the world when you change yourself. Others like the company of strong, confident people. The ones who know who they are and what they want. Those who make you feel like they've got it all and you just want to be like 'em. Their self-confidence are like magnets and when you're thinking of them, you wish down deep in your heart to have the courage they have. The courage to take the risks, whatever would happen. But then, a reality check comes and you feel lost: you will never be like them.
       You know what? That's just a story!!! A story you made up. You can be like them. You can be confident! and strong! I just told you the steps... First, find out who you are and what you want to achieve. "People look at decisions in isolation instead of realizing that single decisions are really points in a stream of decisions. So you need to look at the long-term consequences of your immediate choices." says Stephens P. Robbins in his book, Decide & Conquer: Make Winning Decisions and Take Control of Your Life. Learn when to stop gathering information. Too much can be confusing. Next, accept the risk involved. Some choices won't turn out as good as other, and you need to be aware of that in order to get the best out of yourself. And, in the end, you need to change the way you're seeing yourself. I've never seen anywhere "self-confidence" for sale. So, in order to have that, you just need to see those positive parts in you, find the not so good parts and work on them. In the end, you are the Master that can work miracles on yourself. Good luck! (to me, and other indecisive people)

PS: I just hit 1000 page visits, let's party!!!


  1. Hey hon don't forget that I will always be beside you and I will help in this! :*

  2. Oh, hon you're so sweet! I love you!!!:*:*:* Thanks for being there for me all the time.

  3. I recommend u a book - "Ax.i.om, by Bill Hybles" - it's about leadership - but u can start to lead yourself, and then your family, your kids and so on... and you will end up learning to make good decisions for you and for others...
    And don't be afraid of failures: just stand up and start again...


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